7 reasons why nice guys always end up in the friendzone.

“Why does she choose that oaf?” He wonders, the one who treats her like a queen and puts everything on a silver platter for her, no one blames the good kids, that's how many of us were raised, “be respectful, behave,” all of that is fine, but too much is the master key to unlock a room called The Friendzone, but, did I say room? It's more like a huge warehouse where all the good guys are, the ones who typically try to reach a woman's heart by being very kind to them.

So, what could the good guy be doing wrong?

1.- Always be a little TOO available!

Apply it to yourself, if you always had something, whatever and whenever you wanted and how you wanted, would you still find it attractive? What we happen to have just a little of, what we don't know if it will be available when we want, that's what attracts us!

So whenever she calls and without exception you say “of course, I'll be there right away”, you are putting everything on a silver platter, and by everything I mean all the reasons for her to send you to the Friendzone.

2.- A shoulder to cry on, a counselor, and a psychologist. 

Earn her trust is one thing, but becoming another of her beffies works against you abysmally, this goes hand in hand with the first point, if you are always available to listen to how another jerk broke her heart it simply won't take you anywhere, well... it´ll take you to her couch to hear about her latest rupture one more time, but no further than there. How to avoid this? You better not cross the line of the Friendzone, stand up straight and make your feelings clear: You are her suitor! Not his “beffie”, “BFF”, “friend”, and by no means her "counselor".

3.- You try to please her at all costs. 

Don't get me wrong, they love a gentleman who knows how to treat them like a queen, in the proper way, but if your whole life revolves around her approval, what are you doing? If to every comment she makes, like “I love cats” you respond: “Me too!”, or you agree and perform every request she makes without exception... Go and buy yourself a nail polish kit at once. In your incessant efforts to satisfy her you are only showing her your lack of will and a weak personality, you cannot blame her for labeling you as a man who has no opinions of his own (someone who is not interesting).

4.- Demasiado miedo a la iniciativa.

She may perceive your shyness as “cute,” but if you expect her to suddenly grab you and say she can't take it anymore and kiss you… Where do you stand as a man? She can be very open-minded, but it's still up to you to take the interaction to a romantic level. Okay, it's 21st century! This and that... maybe she expects to feel the advancements in your relationship are up to both of you, just don't let her bear all the weight of the progress (unless she's like... reeeeally really into shy boys). 

5.- The annoying habit of giving advice when no one asked for it.

By reminding her what she is doing wrong and what she should do with phrases like “maybe if you gave yourself the chance with someone who isn't a jerk” frankly... you are yelling at her that you like her, that you want something more with her but you are so afraid and lacking initiative that you want her to ask you to be her boyfriend. Pathetic, don't you think? Plus she already has a mother and/or sisters for those little tips and love advice.

6.- You fall into the Friendzone because you allow it.

If you are too kind and such a good boy, you will be like a boxing bag, someone who does not defend himself, there is a difference between being kind and having no character. If you never object to being “friendzoned” you will simply never get out of that category.

How do you object? With actions. Every time she starts treating you like her best friend, you do something that makes it clear to her who you are: her suitor. For example, a “beffie” does not steal kisses, nor does he look at her from top to bottom and say “you are absolutely stunning today”. 

7.- And finally the most common and important reason why you fall into the Friendzone.

You are boring! Sorry to say it like that but good guys rarely offer something exciting and fun to do, under the constant pressure of being a good boy they stop being funny and adventurous, have you heard the saying “if you want to reach her heart make her laugh”? It doesn't mean you have to act like a clown on a unicycle, nor does it mean being a reckless adventurer addicted to adrenaline.

Just give her memorable fun times with you, something that she relates to you and can say "that was amazing", examples include camping, sports, concerts, trips, dancing, and a long etcetera that a good boy would say "I'll pass", you better do not pass; Go ahead! 

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8 Things she wants you to do this Valentine's Day but she won't tell you

In case you haven't noticed, women give little subtle hints of what they want from their partners, they don't want to express it verbally, they want their boyfriend, husband, lover, etc. to notice. Let us tell you loud and clear that Valentine's Day is coming up! And while maybe, just maybe, for you it is any nonsense, maybe for her it is not, perhaps she expects even a minimum detail on your part.

We understand you, you don't read minds, and you may not be a hopeless romantic but there are ways you can stand up and survive this Valentine's Day. Therefore, we leave you these 8 tips:

1) She wants to be your first option.

If you can make plans with her before the 14th, great! No one wants to be someone's second choice, calling her in the middle of Valentine's Day, already late, to see if she wants to do something, will give a very bad message. Show her that you thought about her from days before, she wants your attention, she wants your time.

2) She wants you to touch her "unintentionally".

While watching a movie, or sitting in a park, or in a restaurant, it doesn't matter if you're already a couple, if you two just starting dating or if you've been together for years. Contact is something expected that day, a light touch to her hands, a hug, an "I can't resist it anymore" followed by a kiss. It is not something that is rehearsed, please do not do it, it will look mechanical, instead, do it naturally and in the moment, no effort needed.

3) She wants you to bring out your inner chef.

You can start the day by inviting her to have breakfast, she'll have something cooked by a highly renowned chef: You. A breakfast is simple: Two cups of coffee, toast, bacon and eggs, waffles, or something more complicated if you want. Later plans can be anything, go to the movies, go anywhere, but the fact that you started the day by feeding your partner will add points abundantly.

4) Nothing in secret.

She doesn't want you to lead her down the path of darkness so no one sees you both together. That doesn't speak well of you (nor of her if she agrees to hang out on those terms). What do you think she prefers? If you show her that you can hug her and kiss her even in front of your friends, if you talk about her as your treasure. She wants you to be authentic when you're with her, to joke with her, to keep her close to you, to hold her hand if you walk down the street.

5) She wants to receive a surprise. 

It doesn't have to be something material or luxurious, just something as proof that you think about her, you can lie to her a little, you can tell her that you are going to the movies and end up taking her to a drive-in movie theater that you previously set up in your patio with a projector, wine, a blanket and chocolates (for example), the detail is much better, don't you think? Delight her with something special.

6) Show there was effort from your part.

And one more time, it's not about material things, unless she is more interested in your wallet than in you, she most likely wants to see that you put some effort into the details of that day, a gift made by yourself, perhaps something that means something to both of you, even a USB flashdrive filled with her favorite movies can be that something, especially if you remembered all the ones she likes, it's something that yells that you've put effort and thought process into the detail.

7) You should do it every day, but that day do not forget to tell her that she is beautiful.

When you pick her up, when she's finally ready (yes, most of them spend a good amount of time getting ready, it is what it is), tell her that she looks spectacular, it's not about satiating her ego, it's more like a declaration of how much you like her and that's something that every woman craves for deep down in her soul. It doesn't take any effort to sincerely praise a woman, besides, if you're with her it's because you like her, you just need to remind her how beautiful her eyes are, or her hair, or her lips, whatever. that you like about her, and yes, this also includes her personality, but come on! Say something about what your eyes are seeing too.

8) Little details.

Instead (or apart) of giving her an expensive perfume and saying "Happy Valentine's Day, see you tomorrow"  you could give her small and varied details throughout the time you spend together, a slow dance wherever you are, a hug under a starry night, a first kiss maybe, something she can remember for a long time.

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10 Things that your girlfriend will never say to you.

Sometimes we expect ridiculous things from our partner, things that will never happen, it is easy for us to expect them to accept certain behaviors even when deep down we know that it will never happen. It is natural to want her to accept that you are "her little wild beast", but just as men expect acceptance from their partners, women also expect behaviors from men that will rarely or never be given.

There are things that women were not programmed to say, it's not in their nature, unless your girlfriend has a bit of masculinity in her chromosomes and understands men perfectly (in that case then never let her go, unless she's so masculine that keeps sending you to the hospital every time you don't answer a call).

But seriously, if your girlfriend said these things, she would probably be a man:

1. "Drink more babe, I love seeing you throw up."

They want someone who can get them back home safe and without a scratch, if you end up losing consciousness at each party you go together, she will hardly flatter your behavior. Unless she is also a drinking champion who adores getting totally wasted with you.

2. "What a nice truck driver belly you have my love, I love how it keeps growing and growing".

If when you two met you weighed 154 pounds and now you're around 240 or more it is very likely that she doesn't like your conformism, it means that you have stopped trying to look good for her. Physical appearance matters and we cannot deny it.

3. "Honey, I just finished washing your car, do you want me to make your bed?"

I mean, come on! Your girlfriend is not your slave, it is more likely that if she makes your bed while YOU wash HER car then later she might propose a much more interesting activity (wink).

4. "Forgive me, I was wrong, You're right, again."

Do you really expect her to say this? Besides, that sounds creepy, it sounds like if she was afraid of you or something like that.

5. "You burp like a real Lion, I love you my Simba."

When the confidence has exceeded the limits and you do things in front of her like burping, farting or you have no problem with leaving the bathroom's door open allowing her to see you defecate then you are giving her reasons to start feeling a little disgusted by the man that she once liked so much.

6. "Yes love, those shoes that you gave me 3 years ago are still good."

It's not that she wants you to give her gifts every day (unless she's more interested in your wallet than in you) but if you've stopped giving her an occasional detail every now and then you better be ready to hear complaints about it.

7. "My sister said you were looking at her harassingly while she was swimming, she's crazy! You would never do something like that."

She doesn't want you to see the beautiful bodies of other women more than you do with hers, do not do it on the street, do not do it at parties and definitely do not do it with her sister!

8. "Honey, when you're back from the bar, wake me up to warm up your dinner."

Here we mix two previous points: she doesn't want a measureless drunk guy and she definitely doesn't want to be the servant of a measureless drunk guy.

9. "Stay here, love, I'll change the flat tire."

Being a gentleman in modern times includes knowing how to change a tire, it is simple, now, it would be an exaggeration to include having knowledge of advanced mechanics, not everyone knows that much, but she will be grateful if her man gets her out of trouble. So man up!

10. "Your mother called again, she'll stay with us for the whole month! Isn't that great?"

Just as you don't want her mother messing around, dropping opinions about your relationship and stuff like that, she also doesn't want your mother hanging around more than necessary, it is easy to overpass the privacy line, and I'm sorry to hurt some feelings out there but a couple does not include mothers, fathers or anyone else

It ain't that hard.

Surely you don't want to screw your relationship, if so, why would you be with her?

It would definitely be hilarious to hear your girlfriend calling you "Simba" but let's face reality: They want a relationship based on respect, trust and communication, if you know how to properly mix that with your wild instincts then you will have found the key to achieve the perfect understanding of  women, and I would be willing to read a book or two about that.

10 Men Reveal Their Worst Breakup Excuses.

Breaking up with someone should be easy, right?

The truth is that not all of us have that "talent", there are people who don't beat around the bush and just drop it straight and filter-less: I think we should stop seeing each other.

End of the relationship, there is no doubt.

But there are many women who do not do it directly and they are creative when it comes to ending a relationship, in this Reddit thread several men shared the worst excuses they have heard, here we selected the 10 best:

As you can see, this has nothing to do with the clichés "it's not you, it's me" or "I think we need a break", oh no, this is another level. Share what has been the most ridiculous excuse you have been given (both men and women).



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Unfaithful wife discovered thanks to the stupidest mistake ever.

Here's one more of those stories in which someone is discovered thanks to stupidity, but this one's different, the mistake made is so simple and at the same time stupid.

As far as is known, someone's wife took a trip (supposedly for business purposes), then decided to send some burning photos to her husband so he would not miss her.

This was the first photo that she sent:

So far everything's fine, perfect, but to make things more interesting she decided to send another photo to her husband:

But the husband did not smile in the least, why? Because he knew that she was cheating on him, how did he know? Well ... we could tell you right now but we would ruin the epic conversation they held after those photos.

You came back up to see the boots, right?

Damn! That must be the stupidest mistake anyone has made in their unfaithful life. Also... what a good eye that guy has! Probably many of us would have stared at the girl without noticing that little detail.



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10 Types of friends you DON'T need in your life.

It's easy to be friendly, but being a friend, carrying that title, by all means, that's something else. There are friends who change your life for good and then there are those toxic friendships that leaves you exhausted and emotionally disappointed.

Maybe, it is time to re-evaluate some of your friendships. Here are 10 types of friends that you simply do not need in your life.

1. The one that never has time for you.

The one who has all the time in the world to party seven days a week, but coincidentally is always busy when you need him/her for a favor, a tip, a conversation, whatever that does not involve alcohol and partying.

2. The one that does not have initiative for plans.

If you are the only one making plans and you are the one who makes that call to set up a weekend plan, a trip to the beach, etc. If suddenly you notice that if you never call that friend, he/she will not call you, then, what are you doing?

3. The one that disappears when you're having a bad time.

It is during difficult times when you most need a sincere friend who is there for you and if this "friend" is only there when things look good... I regret telling you that he/she does not deserve a place in your life.

4. Those who come to you when you are at your best.

In the opposite case to the previous point, if when things are going just normal you barely see that friend, but as soon as you get a stroke of luck and everything is rosy in your life, magically that friend appears! Just remember that when the stroke of luck disappears, so will he/she.

5. The one that makes you feel like a piece of shit.

Being honest is a great quality in a friend, but there is a thin line between being honest and being cynical. You do not need unnecessary and constant criticism about everything you do in your life; that's not a friends' thing.

6. Those who don't trust you at all after so many years of loyalty.

You are not the one to blame if someone else betrayed him/her in the past, if after many years your friend still cannot trust you fully, then that will probably never happen.

7. The one that changes the way he/she is while being with other friends.

When no one's around he/she is the best friend you could ever ask for, but as soon as his/her other friends arrive his/her personality changes and suddenly turns into a pedantic person, a bragger, someone totally different and with other "qualities" you don't really appreciate. That's a 'friend' with masks.

8. The one who does not forget or forgive.

We all make involuntary mistakes, but if that friend does not forget what happened or is incapable of really forgiving you and spends time reminding you when you screwed up then, believe me, there won't be a happy ending in that friendship.

9. Those that are too competitive (like... way too much).

Oh man... I hate this kind of "friends"! I call them "the always one step ahead". A moderate amount of competitiveness is motivating, it is healthy, but if they spend so much time comparing and highlighting all those things that (according to them) they do better than you and others, that's just pathetic!

10. Those who are ashamed of you.

These are the worst, true friends are those who love you for who you are, and they accept your shortcomings. If someone is constantly trying to change you or even worse: talking about how imperfect you are behind your back! Then as the saying goes "with friends like these, who need enemies?"




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